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Hiiii there! Oh I'm so happy to write again. :) Busy days behind me and
in front of me, but I will always find time for this blog of mine to talk
to you, amazing people, and share my latest adventures, outfits and
thoughts. As you can see I didn't do 'The 7 joys of January' mainly
because nothing happens in January generally, just studying, sitting
behind my desk and hoping for these exams days to pass as soon as
possible. Yesterday I studied for my final exam from Epistemology,
branch of philosophy that studies the knowledge and human cognitions,
and the main topic was feminist epistemology. Few years back I wasn't
such a big feminist, mainly because I wasn't involved in the topic and
problems that go with it, but as I started to read a bit about it and
saw how much it concerns me and every other woman in the world, so this post
is dedicated to that problem in particular. Studying feminist
epistemology I realized how much this problem needs to be touched and in
this blog I try to urge everyone who reads it to stop believing
every dogma they live by, step out of their comfort zone and see that
things aren't always what they seem like. Reason I wasn't such a big
feminist before is mainly because I grew up in a family that taught me
to be good to my fellow-man, no matter is it boy, a girl, black, muslim,
christian, etc. I never saw people from the outside and never judged
them by their look, color of their skin, their religion, or their
nationality. Everyone's the same underneath and if you're a human to me,
I'll treat you the same way. When I think about the injustice, and
things that make me mad above all, this is on top of the list. I just
can't believe that in a world like ours is today, all the things that
got better, there are still people who are against gay marriage, against
black people, against some religions. I mean, I agree about the
religion, but only religions that practice bad traditions and are
hurting the people who are involved in it, and the rest of the world
with other views that stand in their way. No kind of fanaticism is good,
but people who believe for the sake of faith are absolutely amazing
people because they see something that moves them and motivates them in a
good way, something that's beyond our world and they live their life in
a peaceful, non-hurting way. And just like people who are involved in
the bad, they don't see how their way of life is hurting others, people
who have dominant position in the world don't see how much problems
there are with the way the world functions. You should always take a
critic stand and question things, because you don't know if the car is
working properly if you don't take it out on a ride on a highway. As a
woman, I can see how we're expected to live, and listening to my amazing
professor, I realized how big of a problem there is. From the day that
we're born (we women) it's expected from us to finish school, college,
find a good job, just like men, but then, the line stops. When I was
listening to the lecture our professor told us this amazing fact that
women weren't supposed to be in high positions as scientists, and when I was a
kid, even teaching was still a man's job. There are too many limits
that make women in lower positions than men, mainly because of the line I
mentioned just now. When we finish college and find a job, it's usual
that in our early 30's we find a man and start a family, because that's
the thing our society tells us we should do. And not just our society.
If you're 20 like me, than your mom is pretty much still young and not
that conservative when it's about starting a family, but I remember when
I was a kid my great-grandmother told me ''Oh I always hoped you'd be a
boy, because girls go through so much pain in life.'' I didn't realize
what she was talking about but now I do. It is a common belief and our
way of life, even now after decades that women got the right to vote on
the elections, go to school, go to college, have real jobs, it's normal
for a woman to have a family after her 30's, kids to take care of,
please everyone in their demands around the house and eventually quit
her job because taking care of the kids, husband, house, go grocery
shopping, clean, cook and what else is a too much of a job to even have a
second one in something she may like. Even if fairytales, it's always
the poor little scared princess that waits for her prince in the white
horse to come and save her. I say fu** that! We don't need a prince, we
are warriors and we can save ourselves. Just like the limits our society
forced on us, to live life pleasing everyone else around the family.
I'm too young to even think about stuff like that but I will never let
myself become a stereotype of a woman. Did you know that if a woman is a
scientist, 70% of them don't have any children because working in a
science field, you have a number of works to fill in a year or else
you're out of the science sphere. You must write books or articles, you
must do research and travel to do your field work, and that kind of live
excludes kids as an option, because no man will stay home and do all
the house work. When has it become unusual to see a strong, focused,
ambitious woman? We should all be that, we should all live the way we
want and if it means working for the rest of your life that's okay, if
your life goal is a family do that. You go girl! Just never let anyone
tell you when you should settle down, when you should get a boyfriend,
what field should you work in, never! It makes me sooooo maaad that when a girl
posts her naked artistic photo on for example Instagram, she's
considered to be a whore, but men are allowed to walk around shirtless
and take photos of their body without anyone saying a word. With men, everything is black and
white, they don't involve anything in between. There was research with
kids about 8 or so years, boys and girls. They asked them ''If someone
you love is dying and you don't have any money to buy the medicine, what
would you do?'' The boys immediately answered ''I'd steal it.'' but
girls said they would go to the pharmacy, talk to the pharmacist, explain
the hard situation and try to get the medicine by being polite. That
kind of behavior differs us from men, we see the grey areas and we
understand everyone's needs. What better way is there to run a society, than
one in which a woman is in charge, considering everyone's opinion,
evaluating them and maximizing the options for all citizens of the
world, not just men that run it today? Our role in life, gives us
predispositions for working with people and great advantage when it's
about the happiness and good way of life considering the bigger picture.
But sadly, we are limited to work in shitty jobs, pay less than men,
work harder for less results. Did you know that girls have better grades
than boys, in high school and even college, and yet, boys find jobs
easier than girls and end up in a higher positions with less work and
effort. I learned all this at college and I must express it though my
post because I believe our world and our society is mature enough to
realize the problem and do something about it. Just like small ethnic
groups of people who aren't in a dominant position, we women should see
that there's a problem. When you're a part of that smaller, subordinate
group, you see troubles, but the ones in charge don't because they
believe their ways and believes are necessary and universal. Karl Marx
wasn't a proletarian, and still he saw the problems, stood up for the
people who weren't able to stand for themselves and made a significant
change. You don't always have to be in a subordinate position to see the
problem, but if you are, you see it faster and you feel it more. That's
why I encourage all of you people, now just women, but even men to
question the ways of our society and do something about it because this
isn't enough. Women should be allowed to be in high positions in politics
which they're not. Women are supposed to work in a construction site if
they want to and have dispositions for it. Women are supposed to be
allowed to be priests if they want to. Church always says ''Treat your
fellow-man as you want to be treated.'' but not allowing women to be
priests is a discrimination for me. I know it's tradition and it's a
consensus, but does it make it justified? Just like we're against some
religions that practice sacrifice and destruction and we want them to
change, isn't it the same in catholic religion that doesn't allow women
to be priests? Or gay marriage, oh don't even get me started, so much
injustice makes me sick. I don't want this to be an attack to the church
or religion as some may interpret, but it's a calling, saying,
traditions are okay but everything changes and we should flow with the
change. We're all equal, and we should all be treated the same, have
same options in life, same opportunities, and if a girl wants to preach
and be a priest she should be allowed to be one! At the 8th of March we
celebrate our day, and I'm so honored to be born on that date. We are
strong, we are capable, we are ambitious, we are women and we decide. We
must stand for ourselves instead waiting for a prince on a white horse.
Sea of love, S.
